I started taking improv and sketch comedy classes at the Upright Citizens Brigade Theatre back in January 2010. The first thing I noticed was the abundance of cute, smart, funny guys (I may have learned some comedy while I was there). Eventually, I started dating an improviser and since I am that annoying girl who loves to set up her single friends despite having an unsuccessful matchmaking track record, I am going to tell you from my personal (and very biased) opinion, why I think improvisers make the best boyfriends:
1. They come from a place of yes
Improv is all about agreeing and "yes and". So your improv guy probably will probably be up for most things you throw at him.
Wanna see a movie?
Wanna be my boyfriend?
Wanna set up my dvd player for me?
Yes and you are going to get me dinner for my services.
2. Improvisers won't leave you out there to die
When I took improv, the one thing I was struck by the most was the intense commitment you show to your partner. When you step out of the line and go on that stage alone, you know you can count on your partner to come out and make you shine. And with dating, you wanna be able to give yourself to someone and be vulnerable and know they're not gonna screw you over. There's a certain generosity and unselfishness with improvisers. And, well, in this crazy world we live in, it's just nice to know you can count on someone.
3. Improvisers take risks
They're always up for doing something new, going on impromptu adventures, and just watching that weird new film no one else wants to see with you (Smurfs).
4. Improvisers listen
Improv is all about actively listening to your partner and reacting. So when I talk to my boyfriend about the different characters in the Real Housewives franchises I know he is definitely listening to me. Right, Boo? Boo?? BOO?!
5. Improvisers know how to stay in the moment
I am the most anxious person. I fret about what's gonna happen in the future. What happened in the past. What happened in the Z dimension. I have so much trouble appreciating the now and being in the moment. And what I appreciate so much from my partner (oh, wow, I sound adult) is that he's always reminding me to be active in the now because that is what I can control. Thinking about what hasn't happened yet only creates anxiety. And when you're anxious, you won't react to situations as calmly and nimbly as you would when you come from a place of yes.
The good traits you find in improvisers may already be inherent but I think there's something about the art form that attracts and develops good people. Whether they're boyfriends, girlfriends, or just friends.
So can I play matchmaker now?